From Insecure to Secure: Building Confidence in Christ for Christian Women

Friend, if you’re here today, chances are you’re facing a giant that feels bigger than you.

Maybe it’s the shadow of a past mistake that keeps replaying in your mind, a diagnosis that’s shaken your world, or the grief of losing something precious — a marriage, a job, your health, or even a dream.

Like the Israelites who trembled in their tents when Goliath roared, you may be wondering: Will I ever be strong enough to face this?

I want to reassure you: you are not alone in this valley.

And even more important — you are not defenseless.

I’ve walked through my own “Goliath moment” — the night I lay awake with tears streaming after a diagnosis that changed everything.

Fear shouted louder than my faith: “Your life is over. You’ll never recover. You’re worthless.”

My self-esteem was in pieces, my confidence vanished, and I questioned everything I thought I knew about my worth.

Maybe you know that voice too.

The one that says: - “You’re unlovable because your marriage failed.” - “Your best days are behind you.” - “You’re not valuable without that job.” - “You’ll never be enough.”

But here’s the truth: giants are real, but they don’t get the final say.

Every one of us will face them. The difference isn’t whether giants appear — it’s what we choose to believe when they do. 

The Foundation: Understanding Your True Worth

Before we can talk about confidence or boldness, we need to talk about worth.

Worth is the bedrock — the foundation of everything else.

Confidence is what’s built on top of that foundation.

Boldness is opening the doors and stepping out with courage.

But without worth, nothing holds.

Here’s the mistake so many of us make: we try to build our worth on shifting sand — achievements, appearance, relationships, or approval.

But those crumble under pressure. They shift when life changes. They cannot hold the weight of your soul.

The only foundation strong enough to hold is this: your worth is set by God and unshakable in Christ.

“She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.” – Proverbs 31:25

That woman laughs at the future not because she’s never faced pain, but because she knows where her worth lies.

It’s not in winning every battle. It’s in being God’s daughter.

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David and Goliath: Anchoring in God’s Truth

When David arrived at the battlefield, the Israelite army had been paralyzed for forty days.

Every morning, Goliath came out and shouted his threats. Every morning, God’s people shrank back in fear.

But David, a teenager with no military training, saw the same giant and asked: “Who is this man to defy the armies of the living God?” (1 Samuel 17:26)

Here’s what made the difference: David didn’t measure himself against Goliath.

He measured Goliath against God.

He remembered the lions and bears he had fought before and declared, “The Lord who rescued me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will rescue me from the hand of this Philistine.” (1 Samuel 17:37)

David’s self-worth was anchored in God’s choosing.

His confidence came from God’s past faithfulness.

His boldness was the natural overflow of trusting God’s character.

Your giants may not carry a sword or shield.

They may whisper lies about your past, your body, your future, or your failures.

But just like David, you don’t face them empty-handed.

You carry the name of the Lord.

The Lie That Keeps Us Small

There’s a lie that keeps so many women stuck: that our worth changes with our circumstances.

I used to live there.

On good days, when I was achieving or winning, I felt valuable.

On bad days, I felt worthless. My identity rose and fell like a stock market ticker.

But here’s the problem: when worth is tied to circumstances, you become enslaved to control.

You avoid risks because failure feels fatal.

You people-please because rejection feels unbearable.

You overwork because success feels like survival.

Friend, that’s not how God designed you to live.

He gave you a worth that doesn’t shift with seasons, moods, or mistakes.

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Seeing Yourself Through God’s Eyes

Let me remind you of what Scripture says about your identity:

• You are God’s masterpiece: "For we are God's handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do." (Ephesians 2:10)

  You are His artwork — His poem. Nothing you go through lessens your value.

• You are chosen: "But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God's special possession." (1 Peter 2:9)

  God picked you intentionally, knowing every mistake you’d make and every tear you’d cry.

• You are loved without condition: "But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." (Romans 5:8)

  He loved you at your lowest. He died for you before you even knew His name.

When these truths sink in, your worth stops fluctuating.

It becomes steady. And when your worth is steady, confidence grows.

Boldness follows.Esther reminds us: You may feel small or unqualified, but God sees the bigger picture.

And He equips those He calls…

The Three-Layer Foundation: Worth, Confidence, and Boldness

Let’s slow down and picture this clearly, because these three pieces work together like a divine blueprint for security:

1. Self-Worth (The Bedrock)

Your worth is the unshakable ground beneath your feet.

It’s not something you earn, lose, or bargain for.

It was set before the foundation of the world when God called you, His daughter.

On days when you feel invisible or overlooked, this is what holds you steady: you matter because He says so.

Bad days don’t change it. Failures don’t erase it.

Even rejection becomes lighter when you remember: their “no” does not cancel God’s yes.

2. Confidence (The Structure)

Once worth is steady, confidence can rise like the walls of a house.

Biblical confidence is not arrogance or self-reliance.

It’s the quiet assurance that God is able to work through you.

Think of David standing with his sling — his confidence wasn’t in his aim, but in God’s aim through him.

That means you don’t have to have all the answers, all the resources, or all the strength.

You only need faith in the One who has never failed you.

Confidence in Christ whispers, “I don’t know how this will work out, but I trust Who is with me.”

3. Boldness (The Action):

Boldness is what happens when worth and biblical confidence collide.

It’s the courage to move — even when your knees shake and your stomach flips.

Boldness doesn’t mean you’ll never feel fear; it means fear doesn’t get the final word.

Like David walking toward Goliath, you can move forward butterflies and all, because you know you’re not stepping alone.

Boldness is faith in motion.

It’s the visible fruit of a heart anchored in God.

Practical Steps to Strengthen Your Foundation

So how do you build this in real life? Here are simple, powerful practices to help you strengthen your foundation daily:

• Morning Declarations:

  Before scrolling your phone or rehearsing yesterday’s mistakes, declare truth out loud:

  “I am God’s beloved daughter. I am chosen. I am never alone.”

  Speaking truth aligns your heart before the day begins.

• God Says vs. Giant Says:

  Every giant has a script.

  “You’re not enough.” “You’ll never change.” “You’re unlovable.”

  Write those lies down. Then answer with Scripture.

  Let God’s Word be louder than the roar of your fears.

• Remember Your Lions & Bears:

  Like David remembered past victories, look back at times when God carried you.

  Did He provide when you didn’t see a way?

  Heal when you thought the wound would last forever?

  Write them down. These memories become your evidence that He will show up again.

• Five Smooth Stones:

  Just as David picked up stones for his sling, you need truth you can carry into battle.

  Maybe it’s a verse taped to your mirror, a worship song on repeat, a prayer you can whisper in traffic, or a friend you can text for encouragement.

  Gather your stones before you need them.

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When Self-Esteem Takes a Hit

I remember a day I didn’t even want to open my Bible, but God met me with one verse…

Let’s be honest: even the strongest foundations get tested.

You’ll have days when you feel small, when you second-guess everything, when your confidence seems to vanish.

That’s normal.

But here’s the truth: self-esteem and self-worth are not the same.

· Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself in a given moment. It can shift with moods, hormones, stress, or even the number on a scale.

· Self-worth is who you are in God’s eyes. It is constant, unchanging, and secure.

So, on days when your self-esteem is low:

- Return to God’s Word. Read what He says about you out loud until His voice drowns out your own doubts.

- Remind yourself of His faithfulness. Look back on the “lions and bears” He’s already helped you overcome.

- Lean on community. Don’t isolate when you feel low. Reach out to a sister who will remind you of the truth when you can’t see it clearly.

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The Ripple Effect of Bold Living

When you choose to live boldly, something beautiful happens: you give others permission to do the same.

Your story becomes the spark for someone else’s healing.

Your courage becomes a light in someone else’s valley.

Your journey from insecure to secure isn’t just about you.

It’s about the ripple effect of women who rise up, anchored in Christ, and change the atmosphere around them.

David’s Secret Weapon — and Yours

David’s weapon wasn’t the stone.

It was perspective.

While everyone else saw an invincible giant, David saw an opportunity for God’s glory.

He declared: “You come against me with sword and spear, but I come against you in the name of the Lord Almighty.” (1 Samuel 17:45)

That same weapon is yours.

Not your own strength, not your flawless record — but the unchanging name and power of the Lord.

A Prayer for Giant-Slayers

Dear God, thank You that my worth doesn’t rise and fall with my feelings. Help me to anchor my identity in Your love, to remember Your past faithfulness, and to step forward in boldness. When giants roar, remind me that You are greater. In Jesus’ name, amen.

Moving Forward as a Giant-Slayer

Sweet friend, you may not feel ready.

David probably didn’t either.

But readiness isn’t the qualification — being God’s daughter is. You may not feel strong.

That’s okay. His strength is made perfect in weakness.

The journey from insecure to secure isn’t about never facing another giant.

It’s about knowing that no matter what comes, your worth is steady, your confidence is anchored, and your boldness is possible because of His love.

You are loved. You are chosen.

You are equipped. And your giant doesn’t stand a chance.

➡️ “Sweet friend, don’t just read about freedom — live it.

Begin with my free 7-Day Identity Journal, created to help women like you release shame, embrace truth, and step boldly into their God-given identity.

Download it today and let this be the first step toward your victory.”

Which giant are you ready to face with God’s strength today? I’d love to hear your story.

With so much love,

Alberta

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